One’s real life is often the life that one does not lead

“One’s real life is often the life that one does not lead” Oscar Wilde

Good morning! I stumbled across some quotes from Oscar Wilde, and was struck once again by how easily he captures some of life’s truths in a simple sentence. When I read this quote, it reminded me of a circle of men or women, sharing stories about all they could have done, could have been, could have seen-sharing their stories of regrets.

Options are comforting. Without options, we feel trapped and vulnerable. When we generate options and possibilities, we free our spirit. When we open ourselves to options and possibilities, the world brings them to our door. But there is an inherent danger in this as well. While options and possibilities are comforting, actually taking advantage of an option or possibility can leave us anxious and full of fear. So we have a choice. Do we take that step, or do we turn away from the very options and possibilities that we seek?

Many people seek opportunity and options. They wait for them. They watch them come-and they watch them go. And someday they will remember those options with regret in their voice. But at least they were safe. They did not stumble, they did not fall, and they were not bruised.

And then there are other people-there are many fewer of them, but they exist nonetheless. These people seek out options. They wait for them. They watch them come, and they hold their breath, and they jump. And it is exhilarating, no matter whether they land on their feet or on their head. Because when you believe and jump, you learn the true meaning of faith. You learn to trust in life and the process, instead of yourself and your mind. And once you reach that place …your options and possibilities are limitless.

Your Turn: Think about your life and the options, dreams and possibilities you have sought out. Have you hunted for something, only to retreat when it landed on your doorstep? We can only learn and become more by going to a place we don’t know-where we have room to become. Columbus couldn’t have discovered the world if he only looked in his backyard. Where are your options taking you? What land are you being called to discover? What will you do about it? Will you live your story, or will you tell a story of regret?

Today’s Affirmation: I step outside of my comfort zone and into life.


One’s real life is often the life that one does not lead — 2 Comments

  1. Reading this makes me think of my mother, who has had many opportunitites to embrace her family, children, grandchildren and friends, but never chose that option. As a result, she leaves alone and in a negative filled world. How I wish she would had stepped out of her comfort zone and into our lives. At the same time, it’s a lesson for me continue on my journey of exploring outside the box and exercise a leap of faith.

  2. No doubt this is an eye opener article which reflects the true meanings of life. Life is not a bed of roses but it is just a journey. We always have two possibilites while travelling somewhere. First, keep travelling silenlty and second, keep interacting with others during journey. In first case if we dont interact our journey will be safe but boring cos we will be alone. In second case, we can happily spend time while interating with ohters but at the same time, there are chances we may get some bad people. It is just a matter of chance. Therefore, we always must do efforts because if we will try then there are fifty fifty percent chacnes of our success but if we will not try then there are no chances of our success. Always try and never lose ur hope even in adverse conditions because crystal rain falls from balck clouds!

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