“To be always doubting your ability to get what you long for is like trying to reach east by traveling west.” Charles Baudouin
Good morning! I am convinced that one of the most common places we practice reverse psychology is on our selves! In the past week, I was taking notes and here are some examples:
- The smoker who wants to quit and details her quitting plan over a cigarette.
- The woman who says she wants true love in her life, but stays in a relationship that is unfulfilling.
- The professional who wants to reach the top, but then watches the clock and never works a minute over 40 hours.
- The parent who wants better communication with their children but doesn’t have time to talk.
- The artist whom feels a need to express herself but never carves out time for creativity.
I am sure you can add some to this list!
How silly we are to live these contradictions in our life and then wonder, “what is bothering me” or “why do I feel unfulfilled?”
I am not saying that I have never done this in my own life – I have! I know exactly what the problem is – I am not taking actions steps that align with my desires. And I know there is only one way to fix it. Either scrap the desire, (which is impossible with a true, core desire) or fix the action steps.
If we don’t, we end up like today’s quote – always traveling east while trying to get west or vice versa. Of course, I suppose if you travel east long enough, you’ll eventually end up in the west – but what a bumpy, long and indirect trip — and what a waste of time!
Your Turn: Turn the spotlight on your life. What true desire do you have where your actions directly contradict the desire? Who do you blame? What do you chalk it up to? How long has this been happening in your life? Can you see the freedom that comes from owning the responsibility and righting your action? Decide whether you have outgrown the desire or if your action steps are wrong. Then adjust accordingly.
Today’s Affirmation: I own all of my problems. I own all of my solutions.