In addition to this program, I have run support networks for the bereaved. In my extensive work with grieving individuals, I came across a man who changed my view of forgiveness for all of time. He had lost two children to an intoxicated driver. These were his only two daughters and they were on the way to the rehearsal dinner of one of the girls. Despite all of this, he had forgiven the driver. I asked him how he had forgiven him — and I also asked him why. He looked me straight in the eye and said, “I had no choice. To hold onto my anger would have tied me to him forever. To hold onto my anger would have killed me too.”
As we head toward the new year, what do you need to let go of? What anger do you have within you that is a weight in your life, whether you realize it or not? Let’s clear out the clutter in our souls to make room for a wonderful year to come.
Write about an experience you need to forgive. Then rip the paper into tiny shreds as a way to release and symbolically let go.
I am free of harmful emotions.
And as always, don’t forget to start your day with a heartfelt: “Something great is going to happen today… I can’t wait to see what it is!”
Forgiveness is not a topic we talk about regularly, like gratitude and thankfulness, but it is very important. We cannot be our best when we are holding onto grudges. An unforgiving mind or heart is like a heavy anchor and whether we feel it or not, it will pull us down.