Good Morning! Are You Making The Most Of YOUR Life?

“Your life is what you make it.” ~Nana Messler

Good morning! I had an interesting conversation with a girlfriend
the other day. She was telling me about this woman who “has it
all.” My friend perceives this woman as having the perfect and
caring husband; beautiful, talented and respectful children; a
well-kept and beautiful home; and the woman herself is beautiful
with a great attitude. The description concluded with an
exclamation like: “I just hate her!” (said tongue-in-cheek).

I, of course, in my ever-understanding way, started laughing. She
asked me what was so funny. I posed this question: “If this woman
had an awful husband, ugly children, a shack, and a bad
attitude–would that make YOUR life better?”

She asked me what that had to do with anything. I proceeded to ask
her why she was spending so much time analyzing this woman’s life.
What possible purpose did it serve? She explained that if this
woman could “have it all” then certainly she could as well. “But
what if this woman didn’t have it all?” I pressed on. “Would that
mean you couldn’t have it all?”

I continued by explaining that whether this woman owned a llama
farm or was the President’s wife, it truly had no bearing on my
friend’s life. Further, each moment she spent looking at this woman
and comparing their lives was taking her focus off where it needed
to be–HER OWN LIFE. Whatever this woman’s life looks like is
completely irrelevant to all of us. It doesn’t change our life one
iota. The only thing that can change our lives is US. As Nana’s
quote states, “Your life is what you make it,” — not what others
make it.

Your Turn:
Who do you compare yourself to and why? Ask what purpose those
comparisons serve. My guess is they don’t build you up any. We
rarely compare ourselves to those who have less to increase esteem,
but women often compare themselves to those who have more and
undermine their own esteem. Today, embrace the concept of looking
at your own life, instead of the life of others. Don’t be
distracted with the destructive thinking found in comparing
yourself to another person–since you can never truly walk in his
or her shoes.

Your Affirmation:
Today, I only compare myself to the “me” I was yesterday.

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