In order to be walked on, you have to be lying down.
– Brian Weir
When we find ourselves worn down, anxious, depressed – we have to get beyond the victim mentality and ask some basic questions. Are we standing tall? Are we thinking in healthy ways? Are staying away from toxic people as much as possible?
When we hurt and feel pain, before pointing the finger at someone else, we have to point the finger at ourselves. How did we get to this place? What did we contribute? As today’s quote says, we have to be lying down in order to be walked on.
Taking responsibility is freeing in that we then have the power to control our destiny. However it can also be scary, because blame is a security blanket that allows us to hide instead of heed messages of change. But the security blanket of blame wears quickly and has many holes leaving it a poor choice for long-term warmth and protection. Responsibility and change are like a needle and thread – from them we can sew a blanket big enough to cover ourselves and those we care about.
Your Turn: In each situation, good or bad or in-between, be aware of what your role and contribution is. Learn your thought-patterns (both good and bad). Awareness is the first step toward responsibility and change.
Your affirmation:
I release the need for blame in my life.
It is very easy to blame someone or something else for anything negative that happens in our lives from waking up late (darn alarm clock!) to not getting a promotion at work(sabatoge!)It is so much easier to place the blame for something that has wronged us on someone or something else. It is easier to do that than to look deep within ourselves and see the true problem. We have the power over our head, thoughts, feelings, etc, even when someone or something has truly wronged us! We are the reason we are happy, sad, miserable, or elated each and every day! We can CHOOSE! Stop allowing things to get you down and out and choose to see the humor in everything and be happy! No matter what happens, there is usually something else that could have happened that would have been worse! Focus on the positive and look within yourself for the blame and then let it go!